if not now - when?

Native tribes practice a tradition known as leveling the waters. When young braves took part in a hunt or raiding party, upon their return they did not enter their village immediately. Instead they sat apart and away from them - watching in silence from a distance.

The benefit of this was two-fold. First, it allowed them the time to bring down their adrenaline or blood rush. Plus the wait and watch created the space to connect with their community and villagers. Once that bond was made solid and steady once more, then they could enter and be a part once more.