A frame or 'frame of reference' can be unquestioned beliefs, values and experiences that we use to infer meaning and substance to situations and events in our lives. Thus when we change any part of that ('reframing' it differently), then the meaning inferred may change too.
To reframe, step back from what is being said and done and consider the frame, filter or lens through which this reality is being created. Then consider alternatives, such as, 'Let's look at it another way.'
Challenge the belief, behavior, attitude or other aspects of the frame. Stand in another frame and describe what you see. Change attributes of the frame to reverse meaning. Select and ignore aspects of words, actions and frame to emphasise and downplay various elements.
You can reframe:
A problem as an opportunity
A weakness as a strength
An impossibility as a distinct possibility
Oppression ('against me') as neutral ('doesn't care about me')
Unkindness as lack of understanding
etc.
You can often change your frame of mind simply by changing your emotional state. When you are happier, you are more positive and optimistic (and vice versa).
: excerpted from Reframing at changingminds.org
Wednesday, September 22, 2010
Monday, August 16, 2010
problem vs. project
4 Steps To Creating A Vision That Makes A Problem Obsolete
1. Don’t call it a problem. Call it a project - This simple change of words will have a profound effect on your perspective. This comes from the Silva Method. Jose Silva, the founder would teach his students to label everything a project and by incorporating this with creative visualization they were able to see the solutions instead of being bogged down by negative thinking. This single labeling change has impacted me greatly. I no longer have problems, I have projects I work on.
2. Create a new vision where you know exactly what you want- Don’t worry if you don’t know how to get to your vision. Just get clear on what you want. Here’s the secret. You don’t have to know how, you need to know exactly WHAT. The how will come to you. You just have to put that vision out there and the right answers will come to you. The right opportunities, synchronicities, and circumstances will appear when you know exactly what it is you want. If you know what you want to create, your subconscious will imprint the right questions so that your mind will find the answers.
3. Pursue your vision aggressively - TAKE ACTION. Start taking classes, programs, or reading the right books to create the version of you that you need. If this is a business scenario and you just lost your biggest client, take action to find bigger, better clients, making your original loss obsolete. But you need to take action. If you don’t yet know what the action steps are, don’t worry. They will come to you. Just make sure you pursue and act on the opportunities that arise.
4. Monitor your state of flow - You’ll know you’re on the right path if you feel inspired, happy and joyful. In essence, you’re enjoying the journey. Even if you’re working long hours, you won’t feel stressed or anxious. But if you do notice that you’re feeling stressed out or overly worried, then you’ve lost that state of flow. When this happens you’re out of touch with your higher powers. In other words you’re not leveraging the unseen forces that will move you towards your goal. Always be in flow.
~ posted on Finer Minds ~
1. Don’t call it a problem. Call it a project - This simple change of words will have a profound effect on your perspective. This comes from the Silva Method. Jose Silva, the founder would teach his students to label everything a project and by incorporating this with creative visualization they were able to see the solutions instead of being bogged down by negative thinking. This single labeling change has impacted me greatly. I no longer have problems, I have projects I work on.
2. Create a new vision where you know exactly what you want- Don’t worry if you don’t know how to get to your vision. Just get clear on what you want. Here’s the secret. You don’t have to know how, you need to know exactly WHAT. The how will come to you. You just have to put that vision out there and the right answers will come to you. The right opportunities, synchronicities, and circumstances will appear when you know exactly what it is you want. If you know what you want to create, your subconscious will imprint the right questions so that your mind will find the answers.
3. Pursue your vision aggressively - TAKE ACTION. Start taking classes, programs, or reading the right books to create the version of you that you need. If this is a business scenario and you just lost your biggest client, take action to find bigger, better clients, making your original loss obsolete. But you need to take action. If you don’t yet know what the action steps are, don’t worry. They will come to you. Just make sure you pursue and act on the opportunities that arise.
4. Monitor your state of flow - You’ll know you’re on the right path if you feel inspired, happy and joyful. In essence, you’re enjoying the journey. Even if you’re working long hours, you won’t feel stressed or anxious. But if you do notice that you’re feeling stressed out or overly worried, then you’ve lost that state of flow. When this happens you’re out of touch with your higher powers. In other words you’re not leveraging the unseen forces that will move you towards your goal. Always be in flow.
~ posted on Finer Minds ~
Monday, August 9, 2010
look at it. . . .learn from it. . . .let it go!
how to take charge and get rid of what is holding you back
Here is a roadmap to move beyond fear into personal transformation - the restorative, rejuvenating, enduring path to wholeness and completion.
1. Face fear with courage and grace. Heard the saying, “what you resist persists?” You cannot soar free until you let go of your fear. When afraid, the body’s survival mechanism goes into overdrive. To let go of the fear, identify the mindset that drives it. To get rid of whatever is holding you back Dr. Peeke advises, write down everything that’s bugging you and trace it back to where it is coming from. Focus on facts rather than feelings.
2. Observe, do not obsess. Remember to act with loving kindness, not self flagellation. Observe and recall an incident instead of living it or indulging in the emotions attached to it. Obsessing over what is not working or what you want fixed is negative goal setting. Observation enables you to let go of your emotions and move past your obstacles.
3. Pinpoint blocks and barriers. We all have emotional baggage and mental aberration that stops us from letting go. Often we are either too hard and harsh on ourselves or we’d rather ignore and bury our desires. Love and embrace all aspects of yourself, even when you exhibit behavior you dislike. Resentment and regret drain you and damage your relationships. Set up deadlines to review issues or situations and when the allotted time is up, take immediate action - no more procrastination, reminiscing, or resistance.
4. To change is up to you. The only person you can control or change is you, no one else. You may not always be able to change your circumstances or your environment but you can definitely change your attitude and how you feel. Start with something small and simple.
Time and again the smallest, humblest most personal developments are transformed by this miraculous process. Things that blur the dividing line between human and divine are so small and delicate they sometimes escape our attention. Be alert and vigilant.
Happy life & happy living!
NOTE: Dr. Pamela Peeke is an internationally recognized expert, physician, scientist and author in the fields of nutrition, stress, fitness and public health who serves as Chief Medical Correspondent for Discovery Health TV, Dr. Peeke is featured on the award winning National Body Challenge series and is the host of the Could You Survive? series, based upon her national bestselling book Fit to Live.
Here is a roadmap to move beyond fear into personal transformation - the restorative, rejuvenating, enduring path to wholeness and completion.
1. Face fear with courage and grace. Heard the saying, “what you resist persists?” You cannot soar free until you let go of your fear. When afraid, the body’s survival mechanism goes into overdrive. To let go of the fear, identify the mindset that drives it. To get rid of whatever is holding you back Dr. Peeke advises, write down everything that’s bugging you and trace it back to where it is coming from. Focus on facts rather than feelings.
2. Observe, do not obsess. Remember to act with loving kindness, not self flagellation. Observe and recall an incident instead of living it or indulging in the emotions attached to it. Obsessing over what is not working or what you want fixed is negative goal setting. Observation enables you to let go of your emotions and move past your obstacles.
3. Pinpoint blocks and barriers. We all have emotional baggage and mental aberration that stops us from letting go. Often we are either too hard and harsh on ourselves or we’d rather ignore and bury our desires. Love and embrace all aspects of yourself, even when you exhibit behavior you dislike. Resentment and regret drain you and damage your relationships. Set up deadlines to review issues or situations and when the allotted time is up, take immediate action - no more procrastination, reminiscing, or resistance.
4. To change is up to you. The only person you can control or change is you, no one else. You may not always be able to change your circumstances or your environment but you can definitely change your attitude and how you feel. Start with something small and simple.
Time and again the smallest, humblest most personal developments are transformed by this miraculous process. Things that blur the dividing line between human and divine are so small and delicate they sometimes escape our attention. Be alert and vigilant.
Happy life & happy living!
NOTE: Dr. Pamela Peeke is an internationally recognized expert, physician, scientist and author in the fields of nutrition, stress, fitness and public health who serves as Chief Medical Correspondent for Discovery Health TV, Dr. Peeke is featured on the award winning National Body Challenge series and is the host of the Could You Survive? series, based upon her national bestselling book Fit to Live.
Friday, April 9, 2010
it's springtime!
At times that which seems small and mortal is in reality immense and divine, but can only be experienced in small and mortal increments. The same types of inspiration that lure gods down from the heavens seem to raise artists up to immortality.
As Dante, the great literary author, famously declared, "Ecce Deus fortior me, qui veniens dominabitur mihi" (Behold, a god stronger than I who, coming, shall rule over me).
Time and again the smallest, humblest most personal developments are transformed by this thaumaturgic process into something universal and divine.
Things that blur the dividing line between gods and mortals are so small and delicate they sometimes escape human attention, but it seems the gods have figured it out.
It's springtime. Pay attention.
~ excerpted from an article written by David Apatoff on 02 April 2010 for Illustration Art ~
As Dante, the great literary author, famously declared, "Ecce Deus fortior me, qui veniens dominabitur mihi" (Behold, a god stronger than I who, coming, shall rule over me).
Time and again the smallest, humblest most personal developments are transformed by this thaumaturgic process into something universal and divine.
Things that blur the dividing line between gods and mortals are so small and delicate they sometimes escape human attention, but it seems the gods have figured it out.
It's springtime. Pay attention.
~ excerpted from an article written by David Apatoff on 02 April 2010 for Illustration Art ~
Monday, January 18, 2010
amulets . . . . talismans . . . . magic . . . .
We offer serious students powerful and intensive courses designed to enrich and enhance your spiritual life and well being.
Take the time to reflect on and renew your spirit.
Take the opportunity to surround yourself with the startling beauty life offers.
Encounter new ideas and thoughts that hold the potential to transform your life.
Step out of your routine life and enjoy something different - with loved ones or among new friends.
We are now experiencing and will increasingly undergo extraordinary changes in our lives. Whether at our local communities or on a global scale, we are all affected by the transitions unfolding in the world.
Cycles are always present in our lives - at every level. The culmination and transition of a great cycle or age - an integral aspect of even greater cycles in the Universe - all ultimately originate from The Source, The Big Bang, God.
These are completely natural cycles of life which exert their presence and influence us beyond doubt of the great workings of the Universe - in all the glorious spheres of life and reality.
It is a great boon to be alive at a time of such profound change in our planet. Without a doubt, all of our lives will be greatly impacted by the events unfolding on the earth at this time and in the years to come. Navigating these changes will not be easy but knowing why they are happening and how to recognize these influences will allow you to make choices with wisdom.
The two most insightful and powerful ways I know to gain a higher perspective as well as a practical one in terms of understanding this galactic change and how it affects you is through the study of vibration and energy.
For that reason, Bhakti, an internationally known healer, artist and facilitator has created these exceptional workshops which combine her expertise with your participation - in learning how to navigate galactic change as it expresses itself in your daily life.
Participants will learn about the cycles of planetary influence as it is presently affecting us. As with all Energy, this natural cycle is influenced by Mind - aspects of which include thoughts, imagination, expectations, intent and emotions.
This Cycle of Energy has always existed and will always exist, and, like all energy, will exert its influence in accordance with the Consciousness of its participants -
in this case life on Earth.
You can already feel a sense of excitement and anticipation as we enter the unknown.
Take the time to reflect on and renew your spirit.
Take the opportunity to surround yourself with the startling beauty life offers.
Encounter new ideas and thoughts that hold the potential to transform your life.
Step out of your routine life and enjoy something different - with loved ones or among new friends.
We are now experiencing and will increasingly undergo extraordinary changes in our lives. Whether at our local communities or on a global scale, we are all affected by the transitions unfolding in the world.
Cycles are always present in our lives - at every level. The culmination and transition of a great cycle or age - an integral aspect of even greater cycles in the Universe - all ultimately originate from The Source, The Big Bang, God.
These are completely natural cycles of life which exert their presence and influence us beyond doubt of the great workings of the Universe - in all the glorious spheres of life and reality.
It is a great boon to be alive at a time of such profound change in our planet. Without a doubt, all of our lives will be greatly impacted by the events unfolding on the earth at this time and in the years to come. Navigating these changes will not be easy but knowing why they are happening and how to recognize these influences will allow you to make choices with wisdom.
The two most insightful and powerful ways I know to gain a higher perspective as well as a practical one in terms of understanding this galactic change and how it affects you is through the study of vibration and energy.
For that reason, Bhakti, an internationally known healer, artist and facilitator has created these exceptional workshops which combine her expertise with your participation - in learning how to navigate galactic change as it expresses itself in your daily life.
Participants will learn about the cycles of planetary influence as it is presently affecting us. As with all Energy, this natural cycle is influenced by Mind - aspects of which include thoughts, imagination, expectations, intent and emotions.
This Cycle of Energy has always existed and will always exist, and, like all energy, will exert its influence in accordance with the Consciousness of its participants -
in this case life on Earth.
You can already feel a sense of excitement and anticipation as we enter the unknown.
Wednesday, November 11, 2009
What is VITAL to me Today?
all thought forms are magnetic in nature - you attract EVERY thing to you
- I am grateful to have a roof over my head, a warm nest to bed down, great food to feast on.
- I so so so appreciate family - a niece’s help & her mom's’s support & my daughter’s encouragement & my sister’s generosity.
- I thank friends for their friendly advise - for all their love, care & support.
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