reframing

A frame or 'frame of reference' can be unquestioned beliefs, values and experiences that we use to infer meaning and substance to situations and events in our lives.  Thus when we change any part of that ('reframing' it differently), then the meaning inferred may change too.

To reframe, step back from what is being said and done and consider the frame, filter or lens through which this reality is being created.  Then consider alternatives, such as, 'Let's look at it another way.' 

Challenge the belief, behavior, attitude or other aspects of the frame.  Stand in another frame and describe what you see.  Change attributes of the frame to reverse meaning.  Select and ignore aspects of words, actions and frame to emphasise and downplay various elements. 

You can reframe:

A problem as an opportunity

A weakness as a strength

An impossibility as a distinct possibility

Oppression ('against me') as neutral ('doesn't care about me')

Unkindness as lack of understanding

etc.

You can often change your frame of mind simply by changing your emotional state.  When you are happier, you are more positive and optimistic (and vice versa). 

:  excerpted from Reframing at changingminds.org