Wednesday, November 22, 2023

ANGER | character & context

Women are often discouraged from expressing anger and if they do, they're penalized. Writer Soraya Chemaly explains the ways women are socialized to suppress anger. 


Soraya Chemaly is a writer and director of the Women's Media Center Speech Project - an initiative dedicated to expanding women's civic and political participation.


art by Michelle Moirai

Anger is an assertion of rights and worth. It is communication, equality, and knowledge. It is intimacy, acceptance, fearlessness, embodiment, revolt, and reconciliation. Anger is memory and rage.

It is rational thought and irrational pain. Anger is freedom, independence, expansiveness, and entitlement. It is justice, passion, clarity, and motivation. Anger is instrumental, thoughtful, complicated, and resolved. In anger, whether you like it or not, there is truth.


book cover art

Thursday, November 9, 2023

what we are

In these times of uncertainty - tremulous, touchy, trying periods of violent upheaval and tremendous loss - hatred can all too easily overcome all else.

The curtain rises on a circus run amok - a carnage of vicious and pointed hatred. The quick and instant devastation of murderous violence directed at one another. Or a slow, seething barbarity borne from centuries of inherited bias.

Hell bent annihilation as deadly as blatant disregard for the universe and life. Human and non-human lives with which we share this fragile, irreplaceable planet are at a constant face off.

We are beyond shocked at what human beings are capable of - ambient and pervasive in our daily living and dying.

D'où venons-nous? Que sommes-nous? Où allons-nous? by Paul Gauguin

The poet Jane Hirshfield is a serene and courageous voice of our time. An ordained Buddhist, humanitarian, planetarian, and advocate for the cosmos - questions how to end this mockery and fatal drama.

Her explorative poetry in Spell to Be Said Against Hatred is a master work of quiet, surefooted insistence, persistence, and perseverance of compassionate consideration.

Until each breath refuses they, those, them.
Until the Dramatis Personae of the book’s first page says “Each one is you.” 
Until hope bows to its hopelessness only as one self bows to another.
Until cruelty bends to its work and sees suddenly “I.”
Until anger and insult know themselves burnable legs of a useless chair.
Until the unsurprised unbidden knees find themselves nonetheless bending.
Until fear bows to its object as a bird’s shadow bows to its bird.
Until the ache of the solitude inside the hands, the ribs, the ankles.
Until the sound the mouse makes inside the mouth of the cat.
Until the inaudible acids bathing the coral.
Until what feels no one’s weighing is no longer weightless.
Until what feels no one’s earning is no longer taken.
Until grief, pity, confusion, laughter, longing see themselves mirrors.
Until by “we” we mean I, them, you, the muskrat, the tiger, the hunger.
Until by “I” we mean as a dog barks, sounding and vanishing and sounding and
         vanishing completely.
Until by “until” we mean I, we, you, them, the muskrat, the tiger, the hunger,
         the lonely barking of the dog before it is answered. 

Thursday, November 2, 2023

co-hearts

When ending comes
Cradle it in your arms like an egg, warm it with your body
so that someday when your back curves around it with grief
the bared bones of your shoulders
will breathe out wings.
© Sophia Rosenberg 2019, We'Moon 2023

Iniko © Sandra Stanton 2021

We don’t choose our relatives or our genetics,neither do we control what happens in the world around us. It's why relationships matter more - they gift us with enrichment and beauty.

Friendship bring joy to life. People we love can enrich our everyday experiences. We get to share with them the aspects of life we cherish

Our friendships help us through our challenges. Our friends provide support through hard times to make unimaginably difficult situations seem bearable.

Our individual preferences guide us toward the people who will best meet our particular social needs. With a little luck, we find buddies who can lend a hand and support us when needed. 

Our preferences are the key to finding friends who can buffer against feeling alone and provide the social, emotional and health benefits of friendly companionship. 

Tug O' War by Shel Silverstein

“I will not play at tug o’ war.

I’d rather play at hug o’ war,

Where everyone hugs

Instead of tugs,

Where everyone giggles

And rolls on the rug,

Where everyone kisses,

And everyone grins,

And everyone cuddles,

And everyone wins”


In our world at war on so very many fronts these simple words are a powerful salve for all wounds - old, festering, new.


Bared shoulder blades breathing out wings.